Ten Tips For Picking Up Strippers
Ten Tips For Picking Up Strippers
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Here is an article by Dean Cortez Strip Club Game: 10 Tips For Picking Up Strippers:
(My comments in Bold)
Here are ten of my tips for strip club success:
1. Go in with the right mindset: when you’ve got game, you know you’re way more interesting and confident than 99% of the customers who come to this place. Strippers spend most of their shift having tedious conversations with lame, predictable men. Once you’ve demonstrated otherwise, she’ll be pleasantly surprised to meet you.
Excellent Advice. Only I go into a Gentleman’s Club knowing I am way more interesting and confident than 99.99999999% to 100% of the customers.
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2. When you enter the club, walk around with your head held high, like you are totally familiar with this environment. Never lurk or mill around as if you’re unsure of where to sit. Find a seat and settle in, preferably near a speaker. (I’ll explain why in a moment.) Do not sit on “pervert row” (this is what the girls call the seats in front of the stage.)
Always enter with mad swag. And Dolo. I prefer sitting near the bar.
3. When a stripper you like approaches you, don’t let her sit on your lap. Make her sit beside you. (”Whoa, easy there! Have a seat next to me until we get to know each other a little better.”) Having a cocky, playful attitude goes a long way in the strip club. It conveys confidence and establishes that you understand her “game”-and aren’t going to follow her script.
I don’t mind if an Exotic Dancer sits on my lap in an outdoor smoking area. But never in the club.
Also, don’t agree if she immediately offers a dance. Pretend like you didn’t hear her correctly-act like you think she asked YOU to dance for HER.
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Never get dances unless it is your only opportunity to isolate a girl ie a no-alcohol grind spot. And then, just have her sit next to you while you pitch. Or if you are looking for a “Buzzer Beater”.
Say something like, “Are you sure you can afford me? I charge $100 for three songs, and no touching below the belt.”
Not sure about this line. A little goofy. But the “spin” is correct.
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Get her to sit down next to you, and ask her name. She’ll tell you her “dancer name.” (Mercedes, Porsche, Destiny, etc.) To this, give another playful response: “My dancer name is Hercules. I dance on Tuesdays and Thursdays at the club down the road. But I’ll tell you what if you tell me your real name, I’ll tell you mine. Just promise me you won’t stalk me or do anything weird.”
Again a little goofy. I typically have no issues with getting a Dancers real name. But I typically am wearing custom suits from Savile Row, so that may play a factor.
Say this playfully, and you’ll get her to laugh and tell her your real name. Now you’re starting the interaction on a genuine level, and you’re breaking her out of her “work” mind frame. Strippers, like salesmen, have a canned “script” that they use on every customer; when you control the interaction instead of answering her questions, she is unable to use her script and has no choice but to be real with you.
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Preferably you’ll be sitting with her near a speaker (I suggested you choose this area to sit in), because now you can say “let’s move somewhere quieter, I want to be able to hear you.” This shows you value what she has to say, and gives it the feel like a “mini date”: you’re taking her somewhere, even if it’s just to the other side of the room. Physically leading a woman to another area is a great way to convey masculinity and confidence.
I like this theory. I do the same thing only chill at the bar and take an Exotic to go smoke. Builds rapport.
4. Keep your eyes off of her body and maintain eye contact. Never comment on how good she looks; if anything, call her “cute.”
“You’re cute, but I can tell there’s more to you than meets the eye. So tell me something about yourself that none of these customers would ever guess about you.” (Again, you’re framing yourself as not being a customer.)
Excellent technique. Never be like “regular guy”.
5. Be respectful of her profession. Never refer to it as “stripping”; the term to use for her is “dancer.” Say (or imply) that you’ve dated dancers before and demonstrate familiarity with her profession. Then I’ll say, “It’s too bad I swore off dating dancers, because I can tell you and I would get along.” (If she asks you “why you don’t date dancers,” be vague-just tell her, “It’s a long story, I’ll tell you about it sometime.” Then ask her another question that prompts her to keep thinking and sharing.
Straight out The G Manifesto playbook.
Another good line to use: “I know you must have some funny stories from working here. My friend is a dancer in Las Vegas, and she told me some hilarious stories about the customers who come in these places”
Too standardized. Every girl has heard this one a million times.
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6. Befriend the staff: bouncers, coat check, bus boys, DJs, managers, the owner, etc. When you visit, staff members should know and greet you. This gives you high social value (or “social proof”) in the eyes of the dancers; again, you’re not a typical customer.
Again, straight out The G Manifesto Playbook. Lock the spot down.
Befriending male staff members is easy: I’ll bring a can of Red Bull over to the doorman and say, “Here, I thought you could use this,” and give him the drink. Then tell him, “you must be the envy of all your friends-hanging out in a club full of beautiful, half-naked women every night and getting paid for it. By the way, my name’s Dean.”
Nine times out of ten, the doorman will proceed to tell you why working at a strip club is anything but exciting and glamorous. Have a few laughs with him; chat for a few minutes, then head back to your seat. He knows you now, and he’ll appreciate the gesture. Every time you return from now on, he’ll give you a warm welcome.
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Befriending the manager or owner will give you even greater social proof. To do this, I’ll ask my waitress to point out the person who is running the place. Then I’ll walk up to the manager/owner, introduce myself, and tell them this is one of my favorite clubs. Then, I’ll say that I’m trying to find a good location for my buddy’s upcoming bachelor party and I think this place would be perfect. I’ll ask how much it would cost to reserve a VIP room and several dancers for a few hours.
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(I never actually come back for any bachelor party; I just use this as an “ice breaker” to get to know the manager/owner. They’re happy to talk to me about this. When I return in the future, if they ever ask me about the bachelor party plans, I say with a smile, “well actually, it looks like we’ll be throwing him a divorce party pretty soon. Do you do those, too?”
7. Don’t forget, the girls are there to make money. Go on slow nights when there aren’t a lot of customers vying for their attention. When you sit down with a girl and you’ve been chatting for a little while, it’s okay to buy a dance from her-but a minute or two into the song, tell her she can sit back down, and resume the conversation. (Again, always behave like a non-customer.)
Weeknights are always best at The Gentleman’s Club. Weekend nights are only if you have the spot on lock.
8. During the conversation, apply the same tactics you would use on women in a bar. Use techniques like Cold Reads and Hypotheticals. Many examples of these are explained in the “Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction” book. At all times, you will control the direction of the conversation and keep taking it to a deeper level, instead of trying to fill the time with pointless small talk.
9. One of the most effective ways to bond with a stripper is to get her to reveal her hidden talent and or/ambition. They’ve all got one. Strippers are used to customers treating them like brainless sex objects, and deeply appreciate it when a guy recognizes them for being more than that. This conversational thread also gives you the opportunity to reveal YOUR talent/ambition to her. (To women, a guy with passion and ambition is often MORE attractive than the guy who already has a lot of money.)
True. But having tons of CASH never hurts.
10. As far as “closing” with the dancer you like, the “Secrets Of Strip Club Seduction” program contains some very clever (and effective) methods for scoring her phone number and getting her to agree to meet you after her shift ends. (Special tactics are necessary here, because strippers normally have a tendency to be flakes.)
Meeting up with that same night needs to be your primary goal. This is why an essential part of seducing strippers is knowing two or three “go-to” spots that are within easy driving distance of the club, where you can meet and chill with her when she gets off work.
Always have the “after hours” spots on lock.
Always “oversell” these places to her. Instead of asking her to meet you at a bar (which sounds boring and ordinary), tell her that the bar has “the most amazing appetizers” or “the most incredible jukebox” or that “your buddy Mike the bartender makes the best margaritas you’ve ever tasted.” This provides additional motivation and frames you as a guy who is “in the know” and is going to turn her onto something cool.
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Talk to you soon –
Your Wingman,
Dean Cortez
Original Article: Strip Club Game: 10 Tips For Picking Up Strippers
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Advanced move for Picking up Exotic Dancers
The Gentleman’s Club Theorem AKA The Local Bar Theorem
Manifesto Destiny II: Innovative Gentleman’s Club Concepts
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27/06/2009 at 4:24 pm Permalink
I realize these aren’t your steps to picking up a stripper, but you should know that this list is truly awful and some of the worst advice I have ever read. I’m allowed to say that as a former dancer, myself.
First of all, the dancers are there to MAKE MONEY and distracting them from their jobs and trying to NOT spend money is the equivalent of some dude standing in line at the Subway chatting up the girl behind the register who has a long line of customers to help.
Almost ALL dancers are irritated by men who think they can “befriend” dancers and come off as a regular guy, because regular guys don’t go to strip clubs looking for romance……we know better and most dancers are not as stupid as this writer seems to think they are.
Asking a dancer her real name is usually a violation of club policy (if it’s a half decent club with rules) and could get the dancer fired. Yeah, women love losing their jobs for a date. Also most clubs have a strict policy against dancers EVER giving out their phone numbers or dating a customer and this is very strictly enforced in most clubs. Again, a dancer with sense knows this will get her immediately terminated and also is extremely dangerous. This woman will assume you are a predator or stalker (since most of the regulars are).
The worst I’ve read here is telling men not to sit at the stage. Again, the club I worked for would remove gentlemen who refused to go up and tip the girls who are dancing. Do you know what the dancers call men who watch the girls on stage from a few rows back? They are called “Pussy Peepers” among the strippers. This is used to describe a scumbag who thinks he deserves a free show. Again, staying in the back WILL NOT get you in good with ANY dancer, and especially not the bouncers or manager because they get tired of hearing girls complain about the “pussy peepers” and having to tell them to tip or get out of the club.
On meeting the dancer at a nearby place? Never happen. The club I worked for, the bouncers would stand outside with spotlights and make sure no one follows the girls home and to make sure the girls aren’t “meeting up with any men down the block”. Why? Because that is usually another quick way for a dancer to lose her job.
I’m not trying to rag on your blog or on your posts….but from a dancers perspective this is all pretty much the opposite of what any half intelligent dancer would like a man to do. We’re there to make money, never to find love. We don’t even see human beings in front of us….we see dollar signs. That’s what makes it a JOB. If a doctor viewed each patient as an actual human, they’d have a breakdown everytime one died. Think of the same thing for dancers. A woman who dances and doesn’t want to “live the life of a dancer” keeps it professional and separates her work from her private life.
Encouraging men to try to pick up strippers is pretty much a cruel joke and it’s very disrespectful for the dancers. A dancer does not need men having any more encouragement on thinking that a strip club is the same as a brothel or an escort service. Think about what you’re encouraging here. You’re offering ways for men to make these girl’s lives more difficult in every way imaginable by all the things on this list. Again, imagine doing these things at a person’s regular job. You wouldn’t be that rude, right? Yet men think dancers deserve less respect and that they “have a right” to try to get laid while they’re there.
That’s what whorehouses are for. Let the ladies do their jobs and stop making it as difficult as you can. Arrive, watch her dance, pay the money you owe her, and move on. You won’t be considered special for distracting her from making money.
13/07/2009 at 7:53 pm Permalink
Hurrah hurrah! I’m sure girls will be more apt to sit with you if you throw some of that ‘ample’ bankroll you talk about. A dancer won’t even remember your name two days later if you’re wearing an expensive suit and all you do is buy her a drink and maybe one dance then Mack on her like she didn’t pay a house fee to be at her JOB.
31/10/2009 at 11:20 pm Permalink
These comments are funny. I have successfully pulled a “dancer” out of a club a few times, back to hotel room ect. And I know plenty of real beautiful EX dancers from Las Vegas, “where I’m from”, who would laugh at you, and your make believe rules and morals about what happens inside and outside a club between two people.
So how did I pick up dancers, Well being good looking, in shape, and a good personality is all you really need.
Dumb dancers like the one above think there is some magical universal rule about not getting hit on at your job. Guess what girlfriend, 99% of girls get hit on at their job, and many find romance there, so stop bickering because you made bad life choices and became a stripper, and then became an something even worse, an unhappy bitchy stripper.
Also maybe you should think about taking more customers home, perhaps if you got fucked more you would stop calling men names and and considering them dollar signs. I might as well view you a piece of ass if I follow your logic, and most defiantly a whore.
Thank god some men and dancers have some class and can actually communicate intelligently in this strange world we live in, while continue ignoring nut jobs like yourself.
27/03/2010 at 12:56 pm Permalink
these tips are unnecessary. there is only way to get a stripper and that is to somehow get her outside of the strip club. i’m not talking about the parking lot i’m talking about to a new location and it must be a different day then when she met u. it is extremely easy to get a strippers number. most of the strippers are stripping to work towards something, all you need to do is to act like your the hookup. for example… i met a stripper last nite and asked her why she’s dancing. she told me she needs a way to make fast cash so she move cuz she’s selling her house. i immediately responded with “really? cuz i’m looking to buy right now” when in actuality theres no way in hell i wanna buy a house right now. i didn’t even ask her for her number, she wrote it down with her address and real name and 12 hours later i was on it. just find that window and its yours. it takes all but 5 minutes not 5 months and you dont have to know everyone in there and be friends with 100 ppl just to slam some.
13/01/2011 at 10:35 am Permalink
Ain’t picking up strippers the best man, lovin’ it, that article was tizzite, for real dough!
07/05/2011 at 4:47 pm Permalink
I completely agree with all of Lady Raine’s comments. This advice is truly awful.
I am a dancer, and there is nothing more annoying (nor anything that turns me off more quickly) than a male trying to pick up in a strip club. And yes, it is obvious to any intelligent dancer that that is what is happening, no matter how smooth you think your game is. I treat my job professionally, and I am at work to make money, not meet men.
Don’t ever think that a dancer disclosing her “real” name and other details is falling for your bait, either. I have a fake “real” name, a fake phone number, and false Facebook details that I will disclose to men who ask to see me outside of work – this is all merely part of my strategy and a way of building trust and rapport in the hope that I will MAKE MONEY off them in the club, which is always a dancer’s aim!
As Lady Raine already stated, encouraging men to try to pick up strippers is a cruel joke; and it’s disrespectful to and extremely frustrating for the dancers. There’s nothing worse than a man wasting a dancer’s time at work thinking he is going to win her over, rather than spending money on her as the majority of customers do.
I reiterate: In a dancer’s opinion, this advice and mindset are truly awful!
08/06/2011 at 8:12 am Permalink
Get out of here with this whole professional attitude bullshit. Your profession is to grind cocks, dupe guys into giving you money and buying drinks and to dance naked and your asking for some respect? That makes absolutely zero sense. Regardless of all the fake names, fake numbers or facebooks you have only out rules you and only you. There is always more than just 1 girl at a club and the majority thinks other wise. TRUST ME. California, Florida, Atlanta, Tennessee, Texas, It’s been the same everywhere I go and I’ve gone home with multiple girls with out paying anything more from the same clubs.
These 10 steps don’t really help other than the confidence tips it gives. It’s all about confidence and not talking too much. Be patient if you really want it and it WILL happen regardless of the dumb ass dancers in here talking shit.
11/06/2011 at 8:35 pm Permalink
Balance people, balance! Like anywhere else there are all kinds of girls in a club too. I have nothing but good experiences from there. Smart girls are happy to take a brake and have a drink with you and chat about something interesting. Once in a while tell them to get back to work in a funny way and most will come back to you without soliciting you for a dance. Once you have rapport with her get a dance and make it fun for both of you and if you really like her go for the number. That’s it. Many will give it to you just because you are decent and have no hangups for whatever she does, That’s my word.
14/07/2011 at 10:20 pm Permalink
WelI am 37 years old male and travel around the world it is true in America women strippers are only after your money it is their job. If you rubbed your private area for 8 hours a nite you would not be ready for sex. LOL I believe as a intelligent male I have my PHD in robotics engineering, yes I have money but if I go into a strip club with free money to give away I expect to see or feel some huge tits and have them listen to my problems in life. It is a place to relax have a drink and talk shit to a hot stranger this never happens in real life. aka money In any case I am sure all strippers hate their job demeaning their body for money but hey If I was a stripper I would date a hot MILF for sure watching me dance eventually you have to have sex.
To all the strippers out there you have no idea why each individual male is in your club or how rich they are or how much of a nice guy they are. If you only see dollar signs in the distance then you need to be a lesbian because one day you might talk to a guy who is sincere and loving marry into a rich family and be happy he might take you from your crappy life you are in now. Ciao!
23/07/2011 at 10:11 am Permalink
Picking up strippers is easy. Actually, picking up women is easy no matter where and who, or what the guy looks like. In all honesty, women are catty bitches most of the time and they are very susceptible to criticism. All you have to do is convince her, through your words, confidence, and actions that she-ain’t-all-that. If you can do this, you can have your way with her. In fact, she will be chasing you around inside and outside the club. The advice in this column is rubbish, the one thing it doesn’t do is let you know the truth, make her feel small in comparison to you and you will be able to take her back to your place, her place, or any place in between and she will do you left, right, and sideways and even buy you breakfast in the morning. It is a woman’s survival instinct, she doesn’t want the need dope, she wants the alpha male because her DNA tells her he will protect her. He could be 5’3 and 300 Lbs, trust me she will fall right in. And no, in case, you are wondering, I am not a big, fat dummy. I just know this game better than the strip hos. Be careful though, you can’t fake it, women can smell that a mile away. You have to truly believe that you are better than her (a lot) and she just exists to please you. One time a stripper came to me and asked me for a dance, I showed some C-notes and she wouldn’t leave me alone even though I kept joking with her that she wasn’t that attractive (she was a knockout). She finally convince me to take some lap dances…first thing she said was no touching over here (near the triangle). Ha ha…how laughable that was, I kept sort of blowing her off during that first dance…next thing I know she is pulling my hands into her panties. Before I know it, I am back at her apartment 3 hours later, get this, doing her and her stripper roommate in a threesome. The night cost me maybe $100. Strip hos, you know it is true. You are susceptible to being put down, in fact you are attracted to it.
As far as Ho Raine, WTF nonsense are you spewing, you think anyone gives a crap if your big arse is annoyed at the club? Yep, those guys that see you there and starting cramping up in the middle when you get close to them and start treating you like a lady are your victims. Guys like me, well, let’s just say even you would wake up sore in the morning.
10/12/2011 at 11:32 am Permalink
Everybody makes valid points on both sides of this argument. However to the Dancers that are commenting, nobody is holding you hostage when you’re talking to a guy and all he wants to do is pick you up… It’s as simple as getting up and walking away. Working as a dancer takes a specific personality type you need to sit with a guy and GAME him, because thats all he is trying to do as well. Whoever is the more convincing will win, usually its the dancer lol… If it was only about dancing half of the broads who work there wouldnt be working there cause they have average bodies, and $3,000 boob jobs. and most of them suck at dancing, the ones with bodies and faces and 6k boob jobs, usually have shitty personalities..
I consider myself a #1 stripper picker upper lol, for the following reasons 1. I throw a lot of money 2. I’m always fun 3. I have a handsome face and a nice body 4. My dick is big…. sometimes 1 and 4 gets them sometimes its #2 sometimes its #3, sometimes its all but a lot of time its just #4 :p
02/03/2012 at 1:58 pm Permalink
Dean Cortez, you a are the man dude! You live a life I aspire to have, keep dropping great insight man. I’m 21 right now with an extreme focus on achieving success in life and I do one day hope to be an International Player like yourself. Keep doing you man and enjoy this wonderful life we’ve been blessed with!
17/03/2012 at 2:07 pm Permalink
The post from the “former dancer” was so irritating that I was unable to read it in its entirety. It was pathetic.
It boggles my mind how a woman chooses a profession based on deceit and exploitation and then has the nerve to criticize men for just being men.
If any one is unclear about the definition of the word “hater…”
There has never been a better example than the “former dancer.”
26/03/2012 at 12:12 am Permalink
Well, for all of you who think that being an asshole will get you somewhere with women….lol. I’m a dancer and yeah, this stuff is pretty silly. When a guy comes into the club acting like a stuck up prick and feels like he needs to insult me that is the BIGGEST TURN OFF IN THE UNIVERSE. It’s really sad to watch guys try and use that tactic. I’ll tell you what makes us want to hang out whether you are spending money or not: be friendly and nice. Be yourself. Ask questions, answer questions. Be real. Don’t be an insecure asshole. I’ve hung out with guys who aren’t spending cash just because they were cool. The second a guy acts like a stuck up jerk or puts me down or says anything listed in that article, I’m gone.
26/03/2012 at 12:17 am Permalink
BTW, Game 100, you make a good point. The fact that you responded maturely and that you weren’t insulting makes you much cooler than the dudes ranting and raving at us,lol!!
31/03/2012 at 4:29 am Permalink
10 tips 4 picking up strippers that work
1: Compliment her
2: Be a gentleman
3: Spend money
4: Talk literature or movies or music or other interests with her.
5: Ask if she goes to school, what’s her major, etc
6: Ask what she likes to do for fun and then invite her to do something like that with you.
7:Be a gentleman
8: Don’t try to be ‘cool’ or say obnoxious, silly things. Say what is actually on your mind. Remember, these girls are working hard and tired and don’t have the energy for stupid and silly games. These will just annoy them.
9: Don’t be too grabby
10: Did I mention to be a gentleman?
17/04/2012 at 11:44 am Permalink
It is a very interesting post. I work in an office of escorts in Medellin, and as someone said earlier, Colombia has some of the best looking women in the world. Here is the reality of it. These girls are like any other girl. If you have somethiing that attracts them (money/good looks/charm) you can get them just like any other girl. Strippers and escorts are people too. lol. No girl wants to feel like you just want to screw them and leave… if you want that you have to pay for it. Everything applies the same for escorts/strippers and any normal girl.
11/05/2012 at 5:57 am Permalink
Last two comments are spot on. Same as any other girl. Be nice, look good (and since we’re at work spend enough money to show that you respect my job and my time but don’t go nuts on the champagne room). Be warned, some girls never see customers outside, but we’ll all say it’s possible. You won’t get our reeeeeal real name until after we call you. Seriously, just give the girl your business card. If she’s into you, she’ll call. I’ve met three fuck buddies and one gaming buddy this way in my 3 years dancing. Notice how few people make the cut out of the 100+ people I see a night. I know a few dancers who met their husbands in clubs, and a lot more who have just met guys for fun. Same as with any other girl, you have to be my type. And I’m picky cause people fawn over me all the damn time. In my case, I’d say being nerdy, into art, thin, and kinky will help your case. Not every dancer likes this. Trying to use a formula like all dancers are the same will probably backfire.
On number 7, be sure to let her walk away to try to make money from other people, then come back to you. Tell her that you understand she’s at work and that if she needs a break from the hustle she can come back and you’ll get her a drink. That will show that you really get it.
Be patient. Fuck “after hours spots.” I want to go home and soak my feet. They’ve been crammed in 7 inch heels all night. If you’re pushy about seeing me that night it’ll just piss me off and then we will never fuck cause I’ll think you’re annoying.
Protips. (Remember, she probably won’t call unless you’re really really really her type cause meeting guys at work is weird. Sorry bout that.)